Blog – Page 5 – IAWP Life Coaching, LLC

Self-Esteem and the Dream Within: An Exploration of Oprah Winfrey’s Proclamation

By Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

The wisdom that Oprah Winfrey consistently imparts is often marked by her personal experiences and reflective insight. Her famous quote, “Self-esteem means knowing you are the dream,” is a profound testament to her understanding of the human condition and the power of self-belief. The essence of this statement, both inspiring and challenging, calls for a deeper exploration of its meaning and potential for personal growth.

At its core, the quote champions the idea that true self-esteem is not merely about perceiving oneself positively but, more crucially, acknowledging and appreciating one’s intrinsic value. This “intrinsic value” is the unique blend of talents, strengths, quirks, and potentials that each of us possesses, representing the grandeur of the ‘dream’ that we all embody. We are the dream – a poignant reminder of our potential, our worth, and our capacity for greatness.

Self-Esteem: More Than Just a Feeling

Traditionally, self-esteem is viewed as a measure of how much we value ourselves. It’s an integral part of our psychological makeup and contributes significantly to our mental and emotional well-being. But what Oprah’s quote subtly hints at is that self-esteem extends beyond the self-perception realm. It is about recognizing our inherent worth, independent of external validation.

To embody the dream means to accept our unique attributes without the urge to compare ourselves with others. It’s about understanding that we are enough, complete, and deserving, irrespective of accomplishments, wealth, or societal status. High self-esteem should not be confused with narcissism or overconfidence. It’s a healthy understanding and acceptance of our authentic self, including our strengths and our flaws.

You Are the Dream: Acknowledging Your Potential

When Oprah says, “knowing you are the dream,” she urges us to embrace our potential fully. The dream she refers to is not a lofty, unattainable fantasy. Instead, it’s the highest, most authentic version of ourselves that we can envision. It’s about realizing that within us lies the capacity for greatness, innovation, and transformation.

We all carry unique dreams and potentials within us. However, these remain dormant unless we believe in them and take action to realize them. That’s where self-esteem plays a vital role. When we understand and value ourselves, we become more motivated to pursue our dreams, take risks, and strive for growth and fulfillment.

The Journey to ‘Being the Dream’

The process of ‘becoming the dream’ isn’t an overnight transformation. It’s a journey filled with self-discovery, acceptance, and constant growth. This journey starts with introspection and self-awareness. It requires us to assess our strengths, weaknesses, talents, aspirations, and values honestly.

Moreover, it demands resilience. Life will throw challenges, and there will be times of self-doubt and failure. But by holding onto the belief that we are the dream, we can navigate these difficult times with strength and grace.

The journey also requires patience and self-love. Change takes time, and it’s essential to celebrate small victories, forgive our mistakes, and continually encourage ourselves in the process. This constant self-nurturing boosts our self-esteem and propels us further along the path of self-realization.

Oprah’s quote is a call to action. It’s a reminder to cherish our self-worth, harness our potential, and relentlessly pursue our dreams. By internalizing this wisdom, we move closer to understanding that we are indeed the ‘dream’—complete, deserving, and brimming with potential.

Self-esteem, in this light, is not just a psychological concept; it’s a lifestyle, a personal commitment to growth and fulfillment. It’s about accepting and living our authentic selves, celebrating our uniqueness, and continually striving to be the best we can be.

So, let us remember and embrace this powerful proclamation. Let’s cultivate our self-esteem, acknowledge our intrinsic worth, and strive to fulfill the unique ‘dream’ that each of us represents. The dream is not just something we aspire to; it’s something we inherently are.

Articles

Harnessing Personal Power: Reflections on Alice Walker’s Insights and My Journey Towards Self-Love

By Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

Alice Walker, renowned author and social activist, once said, “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” These words encapsulate a profound truth about human nature, which also stands at the heart of my journey towards self-discovery, self-love, and personal empowerment. My journey has proven that we all possess inherent power – the power to shape our lives, beliefs, and our destiny, but we often remain unaware of it, hence relinquishing control over our lives to external circumstances.

Personal power is not about exerting control over others or having dominion over resources. Instead, it is about understanding and embracing our capacity to make choices, influence our perceptions, and take control of our thoughts and emotions. It is about being able to navigate the ebbs and flows of life with resilience and grace, responding to life’s adversities with courage and optimism, and, most importantly, maintaining a deep, unwavering belief in our inherent worth.

Our power is deeply intertwined with our sense of self – our self-esteem, self-love, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness. It is from this sense of self that we derive our power, and this power, in turn, guides us towards a life of authenticity, joy, and fulfillment.

My journey to discovering my personal power wasn’t linear. It was marked with numerous obstacles, self-doubt, and even moments of despair. For years, I saw myself through a distorted lens, unconsciously allowing my flaws and past mistakes to define me, thus denying myself the love, acceptance, and forgiveness that I freely offered to others. This resulted in me living a life that was out of alignment with my true potential and desires.

The realization that I was giving up my power by not acknowledging it was a pivotal moment in my life. It initiated the process of profound transformation, leading me on the path of self-love and acceptance. It demanded a change in my perceptions, beliefs, and how I chose to respond to my internal and external world.

The first step was self-forgiveness. I had to let go of the resentment and guilt I held for my past mistakes and misjudgments. Self-forgiveness is not about denying or belittling our mistakes; instead, it’s about acknowledging them, learning from them, and choosing not to let them dictate our present and future. This was a crucial step in reclaiming my power as it allowed me to liberate myself from the chains of my past and enabled me to pave the way for self-love and acceptance.

Self-love followed self-forgiveness. It involved recognizing my intrinsic worth and cultivating kindness and compassion towards myself. It meant acknowledging my strengths and virtues, cherishing them, and also accepting my flaws as parts of my human-ness. This acceptance laid the foundation for my self-esteem and confidence, thereby igniting the spark of my personal power.

The journey culminated with self-acceptance. Accepting ourselves involves embracing our entirety – our strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, aspirations, and fears. It requires us to be authentic and true to ourselves and to align our actions with our values and desires. When I fully accepted myself, I experienced a deep sense of peace and fulfillment. My sense of self became unshakeable, and I realized my power to create the life I desire.

Harnessing personal power through self-love, self-forgiveness, and self-acceptance is a journey, not a destination. It requires ongoing effort, practice, and conscious choices. It demands courage to face our vulnerabilities and resilience to overcome our challenges. But, it is a journey worth embarking upon.

In my journey, Alice Walker’s insightful words served as a guiding light, and I hope they illuminate your path as well. Remember, you have the power within you to shape your life and create your happiness. Don’t give it up by believing otherwise. Recognize it, own it, and use it to manifest your desires and aspirations. The journey to personal power begins with you.

Articles

An Intimate Journey through Depression: An Illuminating Prayer

By: Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

In the heart of our struggles lie our most profound opportunities for growth. For many of us, our deepest, darkest times serve as fertile soil from which our greatest strengths can sprout. My own journey through depression and the road to recovery allowed me to witness this truth first-hand. And it was during these tumultuous times that I found wisdom and comfort in the words of Iyanla Vanzant: “In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was ‘Help me.’ Sometimes a prayer was ‘Thank you.’ What I’ve discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away.”

As an NLP Life Coach, I have used my personal experiences, combined with my professional training, to guide others towards mental wellbeing. However, I believe sharing my personal battle with depression can resonate with individuals on a more profound level.

My journey through depression was a paradoxical dance between despair and hope. The gray, leaden skies of my mental state often seemed boundless, and yet, in my heart, I always retained a kernel of faith, a light that never fully extinguished. This enduring light was nurtured through prayer, which became my beacon in navigating the often stormy seas of depression.

There were times when my prayers took the form of desperate pleas for help. This was not a sign of weakness, but rather a testament to my human vulnerability. It’s essential to understand that acknowledging our struggles and seeking assistance is a courageous act. Asking for help allows us to access strength beyond our own and opens up possibilities for transformation and healing.

During these times, my prayer was simple: “Help me.” I was not merely asking for relief from my emotional pain, but for guidance and strength to navigate through my depression. This heartfelt plea symbolized my willingness to relinquish control, to admit that I could not conquer my depression single-handedly, and to lean on the divine support that was always within my reach.

On other occasions, my prayer was a gratitude-filled whisper of “Thank you.” Amidst the fog of depression, moments of clarity, joy, or even simple peace can be incredibly potent. I made it a point to acknowledge these instances and express my sincere gratitude for them. In doing so, I reminded myself that my condition did not define me, and that there were still elements of my life that sparked joy and elicited gratitude.

Prayer, in this context, served as a mindful practice of gratitude, allowing me to create a mental space that held more than just my struggles. It was a gentle reminder of the good that was interwoven with the more challenging aspects of life, an affirmation of hope in the midst of despair.

The quote from Iyanla Vanzant that has guided me throughout my journey reflects a truth that lies at the heart of many spiritual and philosophical traditions: The divine, or whatever higher power you believe in, is always accessible to us. Our creator is not distant or unapproachable but is intimately involved in our lives, ready to offer support and comfort. This intimate connection is available to us always, regardless of our circumstances.

In my darkest times, the understanding of this divine connection provided a lifeline, a reassurance that no matter how overwhelming my depression felt, help and support were just a prayer away. Through prayer, I felt the transformative power of vulnerability, surrender, and gratitude, allowing me to navigate my journey through depression with resilience and hope.

My journey with depression was a challenging chapter in my life, but it also brought me invaluable insights. It deepened my connection with my creator, enhanced my sense of empathy, and enabled me to connect with others in similar situations. It inspired me to become an NLP Life Coach, dedicating my life to helping others navigate their mental health challenges.

In the end, my depression did not define me; rather, it became a part of my story, contributing to my growth and transformation. I truly believe that our struggles can be the catalysts for our most profound growth. So, whether your prayer is a plea for help or a whisper of gratitude, remember that you are never alone in your struggles. Divine support is always just a prayer away.

Articles

Don’t Wait Until Tomorrow: Start Small Today

Hello to all my wonderful readers,

This is Wintress Patrice, your certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Life Coach and the founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I want to discuss a topic that is of particular importance and relevance to each and every one of us – procrastination, and its subtle adversary, starting small today.

We’ve all been there – we have a goal or a task, and we think, “I’ll start tomorrow.” That magical “tomorrow” seems like the perfect time to start a new diet, begin a new workout routine, apply for that dream job, or finally start writing that novel that’s been brewing in our minds. But then tomorrow comes, and we find a reason to push it off to the next day… and then the next. Before we know it, weeks or months have passed and we’ve made no progress towards our goals.

This form of procrastination is more common than you might think. We’re so used to thinking about the big picture, the final product, that we forget that any accomplishment is simply the result of numerous small steps taken over time. We’re so focused on reaching the top of the mountain that we overlook the importance of taking that first step.

Here’s the thing – perfection is not the enemy of progress, procrastination is. The “perfect time” rarely comes, and if we keep waiting for it, we’ll end up doing nothing.

Now, imagine if we chose to shift this mindset, to seize the moment and start today. Start small, but start today.

In NLP, we talk about “chunking down” tasks – breaking larger tasks into smaller, manageable pieces. By doing this, we can reduce the overwhelming nature of big goals and make it much more feasible to start today. We can bypass that paralyzing fear that so often keeps us rooted in place, unable to take that first step.

Let’s say you want to write a book. The thought of writing hundreds of pages can be daunting. But what if, instead of seeing it as a colossal task, you decide to write just one page a day? Or even just one paragraph? It’s a small step, but it’s a step nonetheless. And over time, those small steps add up to big strides.

Or perhaps you’re aiming to switch to a healthier lifestyle. Instead of waiting for Monday or the first of the month to start a complete overhaul of your diet, what if you started today by swapping out one unhealthy snack with a healthier alternative? Or by adding just 10 minutes of exercise to your day?

By reframing your approach and starting small today, you’re not only making your goal more achievable, but you’re also building momentum. Each small step taken is a win, a boost of motivation that propels you forward. And every day you stick to it, you’re forming new habits and rewriting old patterns, bringing you closer to your ultimate goal.

So stop lying to yourself about not having enough time. Time is not the issue, it’s how you choose to spend it. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, but you do have today. And it’s within your power to make today count.

You don’t have to make drastic changes all at once, and you don’t have to have it all figured out from the start. Simply begin. Begin where you are, with what you have. Break your goals into smaller tasks and take that first step. The journey may seem long, but every journey begins with a single step.

Life waits for no one, and every moment wasted is a moment we can’t get back. So don’t wait until tomorrow – start small, but start today. Remember, your future self is created by what you do today, not tomorrow.

As your life coach, I encourage you to embrace the present, seize the day and start working towards your goals, no matter how small the first step may seem.

With Love & Light,

Wintress Patrice
Your Certified NLP Life Coach, oxox

Articles

Love Yourself Even When You Feel Unlovable: That is When You Need it the Most

Hello beautiful souls! It’s Wintress Patrice here, your Certified NLP Life Coach. Today, we are going to delve into a topic that is very close to my heart, and it’s about self-love, particularly when you feel unlovable. And yes, there are times when we all feel unlovable. Those are the moments when you need love the most, and that love should ideally come from within you.

No one on the entire planet knows what’s best for you more than you. It is you who understands your dreams, your fears, your strengths, and your weaknesses. It is you who has been there for yourself, standing through every high and weathering every low. Yet, there are moments, times when we feel unlovable, when we let ourselves down. In these vulnerable periods, it’s essential to embrace self-love as a guiding light.

What Does Self-Love Look Like?

Self-love isn’t about being selfish or narcissistic; it’s about knowing your worth and taking care of your needs. It’s about setting boundaries and taking time to replenish and nurture yourself. Self-love is celebrating your accomplishments and acknowledging your failures with understanding and kindness. It’s about accepting your imperfections while also working towards being the best version of yourself.

Feeling Unlovable

There will be moments in life when you feel unlovable. It’s almost an inevitable part of the human experience. These feelings may stem from a myriad of sources: failed relationships, disappointments at work, feeling overlooked, or personal mistakes. In these moments, it may seem like the world is a harsh, unfeeling place, and we are our own worst critics. However, it’s precisely in these periods of self-doubt and pain that self-love becomes the most crucial.

Self-love in Practice

When you feel unlovable, begin by acknowledging your feelings without judgment. Understanding that it’s okay to feel this way is the first step towards healing. Next, try to identify the root cause of these feelings. This isn’t to justify or criticize, but merely to understand better.

Then, take a step back and treat yourself with the same kindness, understanding, and patience you would show to a beloved friend. Self-compassion is a fundamental component of self-love. Engage in activities that nourish your body, mind, and soul. It could be a hot bath, reading a book, a long walk in nature, meditation, or anything that brings you peace and joy.

The Power of Affirmations

As a certified NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Life Coach, I cannot stress enough the transformative power of affirmations. During times when you feel unlovable, affirmations can help reprogram your subconscious mind, allowing you to change negative self-perceptions into positive ones. Phrases like “I am enough,” “I am lovable,” “I am deserving of love and happiness,” can have a profound impact. Repeat these affirmations to yourself every day, and watch the transformation unfold.

You Are Lovable, You Are Enough

Remember, feeling unlovable doesn’t make it a reality. Feelings are transient, and they do not define you. Even at your lowest, remember that you are deserving of love, especially from yourself.

And when you love yourself, you create a ripple effect. Self-love gives you the courage and confidence to face life’s challenges head-on. It allows you to show up authentically in the world. As you love yourself, you encourage others to do the same, and that’s when we can create a world filled with love and understanding.

As always, remember that it’s okay to seek help. As your Life Coach, I am here to guide you through your journey towards self-love and help you navigate any obstacles you may encounter.

Self-love is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, patience, and practice. But you are worth every moment spent on this journey.

You deserve to love yourself, especially when you feel unlovable. That is when you need it the most.

In closing, I send you all my love and light. Remember, you are enough, you are lovable, and you are deserving of all the beautiful things life has to offer.

With Love & Light,

Wintress Patrice,
Your Certified NLP Life Coach
oxox

Articles

The Power of Continued Action: Breaking Barriers and Overcoming Weaknesses

Hello and welcome back, lovely souls! This is Wintress Patrice, your dedicated and Certified NLP Life Coach, and founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC.

Today, I want to delve into a topic that is essential to progress and personal growth: The force of continued action and the importance of identifying and overcoming your weaknesses. It’s an essential principle that I believe, when fully embraced, can make all the difference on our journey to self-improvement and success.

In the realm of personal and professional development, consistency is the key. The Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” This philosophy speaks to the power of continued action. It’s not the grand, occasional efforts that lead us to our goals; rather, it’s the small, consistent steps that get us there. The force of continued action is like a river that, over time, carves valleys out of mountains. It’s the relentless, repetitive motion that breaks barriers, not sporadic exertions.

Each one of us has a unique set of strengths and weaknesses. While it’s important to leverage our strengths, we often overlook our weaknesses, which can lead to barriers in our journey. Acknowledging your weaknesses is not about diminishing your self-worth. On the contrary, it’s about self-awareness and personal growth. It’s about understanding yourself more deeply and creating a robust defense against the obstacles that can hinder your progress.

Once we have identified our weaknesses, it’s crucial to develop strategies to manage them effectively. For instance, if procrastination is a weakness, a good strategy might be to create a detailed daily schedule, breaking down tasks into manageable chunks. If you find that you’re easily distracted, carving out a quiet, dedicated workspace could be beneficial. Whatever your weaknesses, know that they do not define you; rather, they are opportunities for growth and improvement.

But here comes the tricky part: maintaining our promises to ourselves amidst these distractions. It’s easy to make promises, but when faced with challenges or distractions, it’s equally easy to let those promises slip away. This is where self-discipline comes into play. Developing self-discipline is like building a muscle – it requires consistent effort and practice.

When distractions try to pull you away from your path, it’s time to put up a fight and defend your promises to yourself. Remind yourself why you made those promises in the first place. Revisit your goals, your dreams, and the vision you have for your life. Stay committed and stay strong. Know that each time you successfully defend your promises, you’re taking one more step towards achieving your goals and becoming the best version of yourself.

In the end, remember that every step, every action counts. Consistency is the silent force that drives us to our desired destinations. Identifying and managing our weaknesses empowers us to stay on track. And when distractions try to lure us away, we have the strength and the courage to defend our promises to ourselves, no matter what.

I hope you have found some insight in today’s blog post. Our journey may be challenging, but remember, the road to success is always under construction. Keep pushing forward and stay committed to your dreams. The power is in your hands.

Sending you all love and light. Stay strong, stay beautiful, and keep going!

With Love & Light,

Wintress Patrice
Your Certified NLP Life Coach
oxox

Articles

Respecting Yourself: Listening to Your Body and Emotions to Achieve Your Goals

Greetings! I am Wintress Patrice, a Certified NLP Life Coach and founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I’d like to engage you in an enlightening conversation about an essential aspect of personal growth and development – respecting oneself.

In our society, we often equate respect with outward-facing behaviors: how we treat others, the actions we take in our community, the way we conduct ourselves professionally. These are indeed integral elements of respect. However, we must not forget that respect also begins from within, in the way we treat ourselves.

Respecting yourself means listening to your body and emotions continuously. It involves a keen understanding and genuine acknowledgment of your physical, emotional, and mental needs. Your body and your feelings are more than just components of your existence; they’re barometers that gauge your overall wellness.

Our bodies speak to us in various ways. Tiredness, energy, aches, comfort, discomfort, all these sensations, when properly deciphered, give us insight into our physical health and emotional state. When we ignore our bodies, when we push beyond our limits without adequate rest or nourishment, we’re not respecting ourselves. We’re effectively silencing a conversation that our bodies desperately want to engage in for our own well-being.

Similarly, our emotions are not merely reactions to situations; they’re also signals about what’s happening inside us and how we relate to the world around us. Fear, joy, sadness, excitement, anger – each emotion carries a message. Respect means acknowledging these emotions, understanding their roots, and processing them healthily. It is about maintaining an open dialogue with your feelings, listening without judgment, and acting appropriately.

Listening to your body and emotions doesn’t mean acting impulsively, nor does it equate to indulging every desire. Instead, it suggests a mindful approach where you assess your feelings and physical cues to make informed decisions about your well-being.

Acting beyond a linear logic plays a crucial role in this process. Traditional, linear thinking might encourage us to suppress our feelings or ignore our body’s signals in the pursuit of our goals. However, this approach can lead to burnout, emotional distress, and ultimately, hinder our progress.

To respect ourselves and achieve our goals, we must incorporate a non-linear approach. This involves understanding that our journey towards our goals isn’t always a straightforward path. There will be detours, pauses, and reroutes – and that’s perfectly okay. It’s about embracing the uncertainty and the ups and downs, knowing that each step, no matter how small, is progress.

Understanding and respecting our body and emotions help us build resilience and foster a strong, positive relationship with ourselves. It allows us to better navigate challenges, recover from setbacks, and stay focused on our goals, reinforcing that the journey towards those goals is just as important as the destination itself.

Incorporate mindful practices like meditation, journaling, yoga, or simple self-reflection into your daily routine. These can help you listen to your body and understand your emotions more effectively. Remember to seek professional help if you find it difficult to manage your emotions or physical well-being.

In conclusion, respecting yourself by listening to your body and emotions is a critical step in achieving your goals. It promotes a holistic approach to personal growth and well-being, taking you beyond linear thinking. Embrace the journey, cherish every step, and remember, it’s not just about where you’re going, but also how you get there.

Thank you for being here with me on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth. I hope this message encourages you to treat yourself with the respect you deserve and enables you to forge a more compassionate and mindful path towards your goals.

Love & Light,
Wintress Patrice
Certified NLP Life Coach
oxox

Title: Respecting Yourself: Listening to Your Body and Emotions to Achieve Your Goals

path towards your goals.

Love & Light,
Wintress Patrice
Certified NLP Life Coach
oxox

Title: Respecting Yourself: Listening to Your Body and Emotions to Achieve Your Goals

path towards your goals.

Love & Light,
Wintress Patrice
Certified NLP Life Coach
oxox

Articles

The Pillars of Healthy Relationships: Building Each Other Up

Hello everyone,

It’s Wintress Patrice here, your trusted Certified NLP Life Coach from IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I am excited to share my thoughts on a theme that resonates deeply with me, “A healthy relationship is comprised of two people building each other up, not tearing each other down.” This principle extends beyond romantic partnerships and applies to all types of relationships we nurture throughout our lives – with friends, colleagues, family members, and even with ourselves.

Foundations of a Healthy Relationship

Picture a relationship as a house. Just as a house needs strong pillars to stand tall and firm, a healthy relationship also requires certain essential elements to thrive and flourish. One of the most critical pillars in this construct is the ability to build each other up.

What does it mean to build each other up? It’s more than just offering praise or celebrating each other’s accomplishments, although those things are important. It means encouraging each other to grow, become better versions of ourselves, and move towards our life goals. It’s about being the cheerleaders in each other’s lives, offering constructive criticism when needed, and helping each other rise above challenges and adversities.

The Power of Positive Reinforcement

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers valuable insights into understanding and shaping human behavior. As an NLP Life Coach, I often emphasize the importance of positive reinforcement – acknowledging and encouraging positive behaviors and attitudes. This approach has transformative power within relationships, contributing to a healthier and more positive dynamic between the individuals involved.

When you cheer on your partner, celebrate their accomplishments, show appreciation for their efforts, and give them the confidence to explore their potential, you are effectively ‘building them up.’ This not only strengthens the bond between you but also nurtures a positive and progressive environment that fosters growth and happiness.

The Destructiveness of Negative Patterns

On the contrary, ‘tearing each other down,’ whether through constant criticism, belittling, or making the other person feel inadequate or unworthy, can be devastating. These negative patterns not only erode trust and goodwill but also stifle growth, breed resentment, and ultimately weaken the relationship’s foundations.

Remember, when you’re in a relationship, you’re in the same team. You should be lifting each other up, not putting each other down. While it’s perfectly okay and healthy to have disagreements, they should be managed respectfully and constructively. It’s important to communicate openly, to listen, and to empathize with each other.

Building a Nurturing Environment

A relationship should provide a nurturing environment where both individuals can grow, learn, and become the best versions of themselves. This includes respecting each other’s individuality, recognizing each other’s strengths, and supporting each other’s ambitions and dreams.

Moreover, a crucial aspect of building each other up is acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has room to grow. Being compassionate, patient, and understanding when your partner stumbles, and celebrating their wins, big or small, will make a world of difference in fostering a supportive, healthy relationship.

Wrapping Up

In conclusion, a healthy relationship is a labor of love that requires constant effort from both parties involved. It thrives on mutual respect, understanding, open communication, and, most importantly, on the principle of building each other up, not tearing each other down.

The relationships we build are the most significant investments we make in our lives. Let’s ensure that they are healthy, uplifting, and rewarding.

Always remember, you have the power to build a beautiful, supportive, and fulfilling relationship that enriches your life and the lives of those around you.

Love & Light,

Wintress Patrice,
Your Certified NLP Life Coach oxox

Articles

Loving Unconditionally: Embracing Our Closest Relationships and Ourselves

By Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

Unconditional love is one of the most profound feelings we can experience. It is pure, unadulterated affection without any expectation of reciprocation, without limits, and without demands. It’s a selfless act of adoration for those close to us, and equally, it is a transformative way of treating ourselves. In this article, we will explore the essence of unconditional love, how to practice it with those closest to us, and how to cultivate this love within ourselves.

The Essence of Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is like the limitless sky or the vast ocean. There is no beginning or end, no constraint or condition. It is the kind of love that sees past flaws and imperfections, appreciating the person beneath without judgment or criticism. Unconditional love creates an emotional safe space for individuals to express themselves without fear of rejection.

Loving Your Closest People Unconditionally

Loving someone unconditionally requires strength, patience, and a deep understanding of the self and others. Here are some ways to practice this form of love:

1. Acceptance: The first step in loving unconditionally is accepting people as they are, not as we wish they would be. Understand that everyone has unique traits, behaviors, and feelings. Embrace their individuality without trying to change them.

2. Empathy: Put yourself in their shoes. Try to understand their experiences, emotions, and perspectives. This understanding can lead to a deeper connection and a more profound love.

3. Patience: Love is patient. It understands that people make mistakes, and rather than react with anger or disappointment, responds with forgiveness and guidance.

4. Communication: Open and honest communication is crucial in all relationships. Express your feelings, expectations, and concerns openly, but always with kindness and respect.

5. Consistency: Show your love consistently, even during challenging times. This is the true test of unconditional love – standing firm even when the winds of life are blowing hard.

The Art of Self-Love

Just as we must love others unconditionally, we must also treat ourselves with the same kindness and grace. The love we show ourselves sets the tone for how we love others. Below are some ways to practice self-love:

1. Self-Acceptance: You must embrace your authentic self, with all your strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has flaws, and acknowledging them is not an act of self-degradation but a step towards self-awareness and growth.

2. Self-Care: Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that rejuvenate you and make you feel good about yourself.

3. Positive Affirmations: Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Regularly remind yourself of your worth, achievements, and capabilities.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries: Understand your limits and learn to say no. Protecting your peace and personal space is an act of self-love.

5. Forgive Yourself: You will make mistakes, and that’s okay. Use them as lessons, not as reasons for self-punishment. Forgive yourself and move forward.

Conclusion

Loving unconditionally doesn’t mean you should allow yourself or others to be mistreated. It means accepting and loving in spite of flaws, without expectations, and remaining patient and consistent in your affection. To genuinely love others unconditionally, you must begin by loving yourself unconditionally, creating a healthy, harmonious balance that enriches your life and those you hold dear.

Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. There will be roadblocks, detours, and speed bumps along the way. Embrace these challenges as opportunities for growth and deepening your capacity for unconditional love.

Through coaching and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), we can better understand our patterns of thought, behavior, and feelings towards ourselves and others, aiding in our journey of unconditional love. As an NLP Life Coach, I invite you to join me on this path of self-discovery, empathy, acceptance, and, ultimately, unconditional love.

Articles

Harness Your Inner Strength: Don’t Let Negative Energy Affect You

Hello friends,

It’s Wintress Patrice here, your certified NLP Life Coach and founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I would like to speak to you about an issue that touches us all at different points in our lives: the energy of negative people and its impact on us.

Throughout life, we invariably encounter people and situations that radiate negativity. It might be a disparaging comment, a cynical attitude, or a general aura of pessimism. These instances can drain us emotionally and may even tarnish our perception of self-worth. However, it is important to remember that our worth is not defined by external forces or opinions; it is self-determined, driven by our inner strength, resilience, and inherent value.

Understanding Negative Energy

First and foremost, let’s understand what we mean by “negative energy”. It isn’t about disliking someone or having a disagreement. Negative energy is a pervasive aura of cynicism, constant criticism, and detrimental attitudes that can impact our mood, self-esteem, and overall quality of life.

Some people might emit this energy due to their struggles or because they’re stuck in their own negativity. Nevertheless, it’s crucial to realize that their negativity doesn’t have to become your negativity.

Shielding Yourself from Negativity

As you navigate through life, it’s essential to construct an emotional shield that can deflect negativity. This doesn’t mean cutting all ties with those who exude negative energy; instead, it means setting healthy boundaries and ensuring that their energy doesn’t penetrate your personal space.

You are not obligated to carry the weight of others’ negativity. Protect your emotional well-being by distancing yourself from harmful energy and surrounding yourself with positive influences. This might be spending time with loved ones who uplift you, pursuing hobbies that make you happy, or simply finding tranquility in solitude.

Remember Your Value

Remember that your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. You are a unique, invaluable individual. You have your strengths, talents, and abilities that make you who you are. Do not let someone’s negative energy make you question your worth.

In the face of negativity, remind yourself of your accomplishments and strengths. Treat yourself with kindness and respect, just as you would treat a cherished friend. Validate your feelings and experiences; you have the right to feel good about who you are and what you’ve achieved.

Cultivating Positivity

Instead of absorbing negative energy, aim to be a beacon of positivity. Practice gratitude, be kind to yourself and others, and strive to view situations from a perspective of growth and opportunity. As you exude positivity, you will attract more positive energy into your life.

Finally, remember, it is not about avoiding all negativity but learning to manage it. It is about staying true to yourself and maintaining your peace of mind amid challenging situations. Be the master of your energy, and don’t let external forces steal your joy or disrupt your tranquility.

Hold tight to your own worth, for your value is decided by you and no one else. And when you fully comprehend this, you’ll find that you are not just surviving in a world filled with negative and positive energies, but thriving and illuminating your path, and possibly, the paths of others.

Love and light,

Wintress Patrice, Your Certified NLP Life Coach oxox

Articles

The Power of Disconnecting: Reclaiming Your Real World

Hello, beautiful people. This is Wintress Patrice, your Certified NLP Life Coach and founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I want to share an important message with you – a message about the importance of detaching from our digital screens and immersing ourselves in the splendor of the real world.

We live in a time of incredible technological advancements, where it’s easy to feel as though we’re spinning within a digital whirlwind. Whether it’s through our work, social media, or personal interests, we often find ourselves tethered to the digital world. But as amazing as our digital landscape can be, it can also pull us away from the real world and the moments that truly make life worthwhile.

The Need for a Digital Detox

We, as humans, were not designed for a digital existence. We thrive on human interaction, on the feel of the sun on our skin, the aroma of a fresh cup of coffee, the soft texture of grass under our feet, the beautiful sounds of nature, and the profound peace found in silent reflection. These are not just poetic whimsies, but essential aspects of a healthy, fulfilling life.

Studies suggest that excessive screen time can lead to symptoms of depression, anxiety, and even physical ailments like eye strain and headaches. Not to mention, it can also rob us of our most precious resource – time. Time that could be spent nurturing relationships, exploring new hobbies, or simply being present in the moment.

The Beauty of Presence

Being present is about more than just being physically in a place – it’s about engaging fully, with all your senses and emotions. It’s about cherishing the journey of life, acknowledging and appreciating the beauty in every moment.

Think about it – when was the last time you watched a sunset without feeling the need to capture it for your social media followers? Or enjoyed a meal without snapping a picture for Instagram? Or had a meaningful conversation without any digital interruptions?

When we’re fully present, we allow ourselves to experience life on a whole different level. We find joy in the simple things, the small moments that we might have overlooked before. This is self-care, this is self-love.

Are You Spending Too Much Time in the Digital World?

If you’re unsure whether your digital habits might be encroaching on your real-world experiences, here’s a simple exercise you can try:

Over the next week, track your screen time. Most smartphones have built-in screen time tracking, but if yours doesn’t, there are several apps available that can help. Remember, it’s not just about the total time spent, but also when and how you’re using your digital devices.
At the end of the week, review your data. Were you surprised by how much time you spent in the digital world? Do you notice patterns in your usage? For example, are you checking your phone first thing in the morning, or using it as a crutch during times of stress or boredom?
Ask yourself: “What would I love to do with this time instead?” Would you read that book you’ve been meaning to? Spend quality time with loved ones? Meditate or practice yoga? Cook a delicious meal?
Use your answers to create a plan for the next week. Dedicate time to disconnecting and doing the things you love. Then, notice how this shift in focus affects your wellbeing.

Embracing the Journey

Disconnecting from the digital world and living in the moment is a journey of self-love and self-care. Remember, this journey is unique to each of us, so it’s important to go at your own pace, be patient with yourself, and celebrate small victories.

In the end, it’s about more than just reducing screen time – it’s about reclaiming your time and using it to live a richer, more fulfilling life. It’s about learning to love and appreciate the beauty of your journey, one present moment at a time.

I hope this message inspires you to embrace the beautiful world that exists beyond the digital screens. May you find joy, peace, and fulfillment in each moment of your life.

Love & Light,
Wintress Patrice, Your Certified NLP Life Coach oxox

Articles

Finding Your Perfect Fit: The Tale of The Crown

By Wintress Patrice

Hello, Beautiful Queens! This is Wintress Patrice, your Certified NLP Life Coach and Founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I’d like to talk about a crown, not just any crown, but the one we wear as women, as nurturers, as leaders, and as symbols of strength. There is a quote by Pearl Bailey that has always resonated with me, “A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing.” This statement holds profound wisdom that merits our attention.

There was a time in my life when my crown was hurting my head. It was heavy, uncomfortable, and ill-fitting. As I looked in the mirror, I realized it wasn’t the crown that was custom created for me. Instead, it was a crown crafted by societal expectations, family pressures, and norms that were thrust upon me. It wasn’t my crown.

As women, we often speak proudly about wearing our crowns. We use it as a metaphor for our roles and responsibilities, our achievements, and our inner strength. But how often do we consider the weight of the crowns we bear? How frequently do we stop to question whether the crown we wear has been custom-made to fit our unique dimensions, or if it’s a one-size-fits-all piece that’s causing us discomfort?

Recognizing when our crown doesn’t serve us anymore is a process that requires introspection and courage. It may mean acknowledging that we’ve outgrown the expectations of others, or that those expectations were never ours to begin with. It might involve standing up to societal norms and daring to define success, happiness, and fulfillment on our own terms.

Queens, I urge you to remember this: When your crown feels heavy, it’s okay to take it off. It’s okay to seek out a crown that suits you better, one that complements your personal values, goals, and unique individuality. Find a crown that doesn’t just sit on your head but fits you perfectly and elevates your spirit.

As we navigate our journeys, let’s also remember that we’re not alone. There’s another quote that I hold dear, “Real queens straighten each other’s crowns.” This means that we should not only be there for ourselves but also for the other queens in our lives. We should support, uplift, and encourage each other. We should create a circle of empowerment where we can safely adjust our crowns without judgment or criticism, in a space where love, respect, and understanding thrive.

I want to thank you all for taking the time to read my thoughts today. If you feel that your crown doesn’t fit you anymore or you’re unsure of how to find the one that does, please remember that IAWP Life Coaching, LLC is here for you. We provide personalized services designed to help you define your own success, create your own crown, and live a life filled with purpose and joy.

I encourage you to like, share, save, and comment on this article. Your insights and experiences can inspire and uplift other queens who may be wearing a heavy crown. Follow me, Wintress Patrice, on Facebook, TikTok, and LinkedIn, where I share more empowering content designed to inspire and guide you in your journey.

To all the Beautiful Queens out there, remember: Your crown is not defined by others, but by you. Choose the one that enhances your beauty, inner strength, and unique brilliance.

As always, Light & Love,

xoxo

Wintress Patrice

Articles

Wintress Patrice’s Journey: Finding Strength and Inspiration in the Life of Tina Turner

By Wintress Patrice

May 24, 2023

In a world where music has the power to touch our souls and transcend barriers, there are certain artists who leave an indelible mark on our lives. Tina Turner, the Queen of Rock ‘n’ Roll, was one such artist whose life and legacy continue to inspire millions. As a certified NLP Life Coach and a survivor of domestic violence, I would like to take a moment to reflect on the profound impact Tina Turner’s story had on my own journey of healing and empowerment.

The recent passing of Tina Turner has left a void in the music industry and in the hearts of her fans worldwide. Her powerful voice, electrifying stage presence, and unmistakable energy made her an icon of resilience and strength. Beyond her immense talent as a performer, Tina Turner’s personal story of triumph over adversity became a source of hope for countless individuals facing their own struggles.

For me, the movie “What’s Love Got To Do With It,” which depicted Tina Turner’s life, became a lifeline during my darkest moments. As a survivor of domestic violence, I found solace and inspiration in witnessing Tina’s courage and determination to break free from the chains of abuse. Her story served as a constant reminder that I too had the strength to reclaim my life and create a better future.

Throughout the film, Tina Turner’s resilience shines through as she rises above the pain and finds her voice. The movie became a powerful catalyst for my own healing journey. Watching Tina’s transformation, from a victim of domestic violence to a powerful force in the music industry, filled me with a renewed sense of possibility. It instilled in me the belief that no matter how dire our circumstances may seem, we have the power to overcome and create the life we deserve.

Tina Turner’s story resonated deeply with me as I navigated the difficult path of healing and rebuilding. Her ability to speak openly about her experiences and her unwavering determination to create a better life for herself and her children became a beacon of hope. Through her music, she expressed the emotions and struggles that many survivors of domestic violence face, reminding us that we are not alone.

As a certified NLP Life Coach, I draw inspiration from Tina Turner’s resilience and use it as a guiding light to help others on their own journeys. Her courage to share her story and her unwavering belief in herself have become powerful tools in my coaching practice. I encourage my clients to find their own voices, reclaim their power, and create lives free from abuse.

In honor of Queen Tina Turner, it is crucial that we foster a supportive environment for survivors of domestic violence. It is our responsibility to listen, believe, and uplift those who have experienced trauma. If you or someone you know is in need of help, please reach out to the domestic violence hotline at the National Domestic Violence hotline at https://www.thehotline.org/ . Remember, support and understanding can make a world of difference.

Queen Tina Turner, your legacy will forever resonate in our hearts. Your courage, resilience, and authenticity have inspired countless individuals, including myself, to find their strength and reclaim their lives. Rest in Peace, dear Queen. Your music will continue to touch the souls of generations to come.

With love and gratitude,

Wintress Patrice

Certified NLP Life Coach

Articles

When You Love Yourself Unconditionally, How Do You Move Your Body?

By Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

Unconditional self-love is an exploration, a journey, and a destination. It has the power to alter the entire landscape of our existence, manifesting in our actions, thoughts, and physical movements. When we foster an environment of self-love, we engage with our bodies in a novel and powerful way. Today, I want to explore the transformative intersection between self-love and body movement.

Grammy-winning artist Lizzo, a vocal advocate for self-love and body positivity, provides us with an insightful mantra, “I am my inspiration, I am my inspiration” (from her song “Water Me”). This line speaks volumes about the powerful relationship between self-perception, self-love, and embodiment.

The Dance of Self-Love

When we love ourselves unconditionally, our bodies become an outward expression of this profound internal emotion. We engage in movement with a newfound sense of joy and freedom, because every motion is now an affirmation of our worth, rather than a negation of perceived flaws.

When we fully accept and love ourselves, our posture improves, our steps become more purposeful, and our actions reflect the respect we hold for our bodies. We become more attuned to our physical needs, listening attentively to our bodies’ signals of fatigue, hunger, tension, and relaxation.

The Rhythm of Authenticity

Unconditional self-love encourages us to move our bodies authentically, breaking free from societal norms and expectations. Just like Lizzo, who confidently takes the stage and moves in ways that showcase her personality, energy, and talent, we too can be unapologetically ourselves in our body movements.

We learn to dance, walk, run, jump, and play, not to conform to a standard or to be perceived a certain way, but simply to express the rhythm of our being. This authenticity shines through in our every move, showing the world who we are: individuals who love and accept ourselves wholeheartedly.

Exercise as Self-Love

Another way our movement reflects self-love is through our approach to exercise. Physical activity becomes less about trying to fit into societal ideals, and more about appreciating and caring for our bodies. Exercise shifts from a punitive chore to a celebratory act of self-love.

Instead of pushing through pain or discomfort to achieve a certain look, we learn to move in ways that feel good and serve our bodies well. We choose activities that we enjoy, not what we believe we ‘should’ do. We listen to our bodies, rest when we need to, and challenge ourselves when we feel strong. This approach turns exercise from a struggle into a joyful act of self-care.

Embracing Body Positivity

In the words of Lizzo, “I am my inspiration.” Loving ourselves unconditionally means seeing ourselves as sources of inspiration. This transformative perspective extends to our bodies and how we move them.

Lizzo’s unabashed body positivity and confident movements on stage reflect the core of her message: that we should all be our own biggest fans. When we internalize this mindset, it directly impacts the way we carry ourselves. We stop trying to shrink or hide ourselves and instead start taking up space confidently, unafraid to be seen or to stand out.

Conclusion

The journey to unconditional self-love isn’t linear or easy. It requires patience, practice, and a lot of kindness. Yet, its impact on our lives, and particularly on our relationship with our bodies, is profound.

When we love ourselves unconditionally, every step we take, every dance move we bust out, every yoga pose we hold, becomes an act of self-love and a celebration of our existence. We become the embodiment of Lizzo’s mantra, “I am my inspiration,” inspiring ourselves and others to embrace self-love unconditionally.

Remember: You are deserving of love, from others and, most importantly, from yourself. Love yourself, move your body with joy and authenticity, and let your self-love guide your way.

Articles

Embracing Individuality and Authentic Success: A Deeper Look at Maya Angelou’s Wise Words

Author: Wintress Patrice, Certified NLP Life Coach

Success is an elusive and subjective concept that varies from person to person. While some may measure it in terms of wealth, career, or societal status, Maya Angelou, the renowned poet, memoirist, and civil rights activist, provided a deeper, more personal definition. “Success,” she said, “is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”

At first glance, Angelou’s words may seem straightforward, but each element of this tripartite definition holds profound truths about the path to authentic success. Her wisdom emphasizes that success is more than achievements or accolades; it’s an intimate journey of self-acceptance, passion, and individuality. This perspective beautifully aligns with my belief as an NLP Life Coach: that each person is uniquely gifted for their journey.

Liking Yourself: The Foundation of Success

The journey to success starts from within. Liking yourself, or self-acceptance, is the bedrock upon which all other facets of success are built. It’s about acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses, your virtues and vices, your triumphs and tribulations, and embracing them all. This self-love isn’t about perfection, but about recognizing your inherent worth regardless of external validation.

Indeed, this can be a challenging path, especially in a world that often promotes comparison and unrealistic standards. However, an understanding that no one else is you, that no one else can bring what you bring to the table, can act as a compass guiding you towards self-acceptance.

As a Certified NLP Life Coach, I often remind my clients that they are “uniquely gifted for their journey.” This principle encourages you to focus on your uniqueness rather than comparing yourself to others. This isn’t a race; it’s your journey, and the first step to true success is loving the traveler: you.

Liking What You Do: The Power of Passion

Angelou’s second component to success speaks to the power of passion. It’s about loving what you do, whether it’s your career, your hobby, or your role in your family or community. To be successful is to be passionately engaged with your work, to feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment in the activities that fill your days.

Remember, there’s no universally ‘right’ career or pursuit; there’s only what’s right for you. As an NLP Life Coach, I help individuals unlock their passions, identifying their unique gifts and leveraging them in the service of a purpose that excites them. When you align your work with your passions, you invite success into your life in the most gratifying way.

Liking How You Do It: The Art of Individuality

Finally, Angelou ties her definition of success to liking “how you do it.” Here, she celebrates the beauty of individuality. Every person has a unique approach to their work, a distinctive style, or a novel perspective. Embracing this individuality is paramount to personal success.

Success isn’t about following a set script or conforming to societal expectations. It’s about crafting your own path, doing things in a way that feels true to you. Your unique methods and approaches are your signature, your personal brand.

By marrying your unique gifts and skills with your individual approach, you make an indelible imprint on your journey towards success. It doesn’t matter if others follow a different path or use different methods. You are not them, and they are not you.

This individuality should be celebrated, not suppressed. As Angelou suggests, the most satisfying success comes when we appreciate our unique way of doing things. In essence, success isn’t just about the destination, but also about enjoying the journey in our unique style.

Conclusion

Maya Angelou’s vision of success is a testament to the power of self-love, passion, and individuality. It is a reminder that success is deeply personal, entirely subjective, and intrinsically connected to our unique journey.

As an NLP Life Coach, my mission is to guide you to recognize and celebrate your unique gifts, to foster a sense of self-love, and to align your passions with your pursuits. Remember, no one else is you, and that’s your greatest strength. So go forth and cultivate your unique version of success. In the wise words of Maya Angelou, “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” Embrace this mantra and the journey towards authentic success becomes not just achievable, but incredibly rewarding.