Finding Your Perfect Fit: The Tale of The Crown
By Wintress Patrice
Hello, Beautiful Queens! This is Wintress Patrice, your Certified NLP Life Coach and Founder of IAWP Life Coaching, LLC. Today, I’d like to talk about a crown, not just any crown, but the one we wear as women, as nurturers, as leaders, and as symbols of strength. There is a quote by Pearl Bailey that has always resonated with me, “A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing.” This statement holds profound wisdom that merits our attention.
There was a time in my life when my crown was hurting my head. It was heavy, uncomfortable, and ill-fitting. As I looked in the mirror, I realized it wasn’t the crown that was custom created for me. Instead, it was a crown crafted by societal expectations, family pressures, and norms that were thrust upon me. It wasn’t my crown.
As women, we often speak proudly about wearing our crowns. We use it as a metaphor for our roles and responsibilities, our achievements, and our inner strength. But how often do we consider the weight of the crowns we bear? How frequently do we stop to question whether the crown we wear has been custom-made to fit our unique dimensions, or if it’s a one-size-fits-all piece that’s causing us discomfort?
Recognizing when our crown doesn’t serve us anymore is a process that requires introspection and courage. It may mean acknowledging that we’ve outgrown the expectations of others, or that those expectations were never ours to begin with. It might involve standing up to societal norms and daring to define success, happiness, and fulfillment on our own terms.
Queens, I urge you to remember this: When your crown feels heavy, it’s okay to take it off. It’s okay to seek out a crown that suits you better, one that complements your personal values, goals, and unique individuality. Find a crown that doesn’t just sit on your head but fits you perfectly and elevates your spirit.
As we navigate our journeys, let’s also remember that we’re not alone. There’s another quote that I hold dear, “Real queens straighten each other’s crowns.” This means that we should not only be there for ourselves but also for the other queens in our lives. We should support, uplift, and encourage each other. We should create a circle of empowerment where we can safely adjust our crowns without judgment or criticism, in a space where love, respect, and understanding thrive.
I want to thank you all for taking the time to read my thoughts today. If you feel that your crown doesn’t fit you anymore or you’re unsure of how to find the one that does, please remember that IAWP Life Coaching, LLC is here for you. We provide personalized services designed to help you define your own success, create your own crown, and live a life filled with purpose and joy.
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To all the Beautiful Queens out there, remember: Your crown is not defined by others, but by you. Choose the one that enhances your beauty, inner strength, and unique brilliance.
As always, Light & Love,